"And when am I going to find the time to look after myself?"
Updated: Jan 1
"I've got this nagging tightness in my chest".
"I've been to the doctor and had all the tests for heart disease".
'The doctor is suggesting that that I may be experiencing anxiety and stress!"
He explained that I am having psychosomatic symptoms.
"The doctor has given me tips on how to reduce stress, but the doctor has no idea of the responsibilities I have".
"When am I going to find the time to look after myself?"
Does it sound familiar? Interested? Read on:
Could there be a problem when we avoid our feelings? Instead of acknowledging our true feelings, we ignore them and shut them down.
Take anger for instance, many of us avoid anger rather than experiencing it, because its considered a 'bad' feeling. Are we getting anger and rage confused?
From our earliest years we are told our angry feelings are 'bad', we then internalise this feeling and our self talk becomes, "Don't be angry".
As a result of this suppression of our angry feelings, we become defensive so we shout instead, ignore or retaliate in some way in an effort to hide our true feelings.
Do you allow yourself to feel your anger, in your body? The feeling of heat rising up from your gut, the desire to stand tall, the impulse to remain calm to survey the threat and deal with it? Are you allowing yourself this strength, this power? No? Why not?
When and where did you start judging yourself, not giving time or understanding to your feelings? Time for you? Tapping into these repressed emotions instead of bottling them up can lead to happier healthier relationships and a pain free life.
There is another way to combat pain, stress and anxiety, and experience real character change with Intensive Short-term Dynamic Psychotherapy (ISTDP). An evidence based short form talk therapy designed to reduce and resolve stress and anxiety, and build resilience to stress reactions.
Its easy to make these suggestions, but most of us need a guide to help us see and understand our old patterns of how we experience the world and our relationships. That why Dr Tovah and I, (Rose) have developed an 8 week program, to support you in your journey to good health and happiness.
The eight (8) program consists of weekly meeting with each of us seperately, where we bring our different mindbody approaches to enhance your recovery.
This journey is best accomplisher with the support of two healthcare professionals, who are both aware of the long journey you have been on to find the right people who will understand your TMS and work with you to be free.
Dr Tovah Goldfine, a specialist rehabilitation doctor and Chiropractor. Rose Hoey, Registered Nurse, and ISTDP Psychotherapist have both may years experience in the healtcare system, and have heard the multiple diagnosis that patients receive from their healthcare providers, who ave not paused to ask their patient what has been happening in your life.